Andrew SolomonListen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). The Noonday Demon: An Atlas Of Depression,… ▶373HumanityLifeLove
Andrew SolomonDepression means that you have no point of view. ✨ Anatomy of Melancholy by Andrew Solomon, www.newyorker.com. January 12, 1998.363Truth
Andrew SolomonIt is important not to suppress your feelings altogether when you are depressed. It is equally important to avoid terrible arguments or expressions of outrage. You should steer cl… ▶375HumanityLifeLove
Andrew SolomonThough many schizophrenics become curiously attached to their delusions, the fading of the nondelusional world puts them in loneliness beyond all reckoning, a fixed residence on a… ▶375Reading
Andrew SolomonEase makes less of an impression on us than struggle. ✨ How Do Our Worst Moments Shape Us?. TED Radio Hour with Guy Raz, www.npr.org. August 01, 2014.343Time
Andrew SolomonPsychologically, I will not have to seek far if I decide to kill myself, because in my mind and heart I am more ready for this than for the unplanned daily tribulations that mark … ▶343LoveReadingThought
Andrew SolomonParenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger, and the more alien the stranger, the stronger the whiff of negativity. We depend on the guarantee i… ▶355DeathLove
Andrew SolomonSometimes, people end up thankful for what they mourned. You cannot achieve this state by seeking tragedy, but you can keep yourself open more to sorrow's richness than to unmedia… ▶378DeathHumanityLove
Andrew SolomonAll parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves.292Life
Andrew SolomonI believe that words are strong, that they can overwhelm what we fear when fear seems more awful than life is good. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). The Noonday Demon: An Atlas Of D… ▶325Life
Andrew SolomonDepression is the flaw in love. To be creatures who love, we must be creatures who can despair at what we lose, and depression is the mechanism of that despair. ✨ Andrew Sol… ▶3710LovePolitics
Andrew SolomonDepressed people cannot lead a revolution because depressed people can barely manage to get out of bed and put on their shoes and socks. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). The Noonday… ▶337Humanity
Andrew SolomonFixing is the illness model; acceptance is the identity model; which way any family goes reflects their assumptions and resources. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). Far From the Tree… ▶304Reflection
Andrew SolomonWe cannot bear a pointless torment, but we can endure great pain if we believe that it's purposeful. ✨ How the Worst Moments in Our Lives Make Us Who We Are. TED Talks, andr… ▶272SadnessTime
Andrew SolomonThe most important thing to remember about depression is this: you do not get the time back. It is not tacked on at the end of your life to make up for the disaster years. Whateve… ▶327LifeTime
Andrew SolomonGrief is depression in proportion to circumstance; depression is grief out of proportion to circumstance. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). The Noonday Demon: An Atlas Of Depression,… ▶272Sadness
Andrew SolomonWhen you believe that you cannot stitch your own heart back together, go to work on the hearts of other people; there is no surer way to repair yourself than to repair them.3410HumanityLove
Andrew SolomonI was overpowered by being in the world, by other people and their lives I couldn’t lead, their jobs I couldn’t do - overpowered even by jobs I would never want or need to do. 285HumanityPolitics
Andrew SolomonHaving always imagined myself in a fairly slim minority, I suddenly saw that I was in a vast company. Difference unites us. While each of these experiences can isolate those who a… ▶318LifePolitics
Andrew SolomonWhile people argue with one another about the specifics of Freud's work and blame him for the prejudices of his time, they overlook the fundamental truth of his writing, his grand… ▶278HumanityLifeTime
Andrew SolomonLoving our own children is an exercise for the imagination. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity, p.1, Simon and Schuste… ▶191Philosophy
Andrew SolomonYou need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in… ▶258LifeTime
Andrew SolomonThe opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep out of me. ✨ Faces of Depression: Andrew Solomon. PBS interview, www.pbs.o… ▶192Love
Andrew SolomonTreating an identity as an illness invites real illness to make a braver stand. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity, p.… ▶181Thought
Andrew SolomonSome people are trapped by the belief that love comes in finite quantities, and that our kind of love exhausts the supply upon which they need to draw. I do not accept competitive… ▶192HumanityLove
Andrew SolomonLabeling a child's mind as diseased-whether with autism, intellectual disabilities, or transgenderism-may reflect the discomfort that mind gives parents more than any discomfort i… ▶259ReflectionThought
Andrew SolomonThat, in essence, is the catastrophe of suicide for those who survive: not only the loss of someone, but the loss of the chance to persuade that person to act differently, the los… ▶172Hope
Andrew SolomonWhen you banish the dragons you banish the heroes. ✨ Andrew Solomon (2014). Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity, p.46, Simon and Schuster206Humanity
Andrew SolomonWhen I was younger, not being accepted made me enraged, but now, I am not inclined to dismantle my history. If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes-and we become attached… ▶162Reading
Andrew SolomonListen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it. Seek out the memories depression takes away and project them into the fut… ▶229HopeHumanityLife
